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new friends v__v Anonymous 05/03/24 (Fri) 08:23:18 PM No. 395302[Reply]

since i got with my bf i blocked and removed all guy friends (never had really any close online gfs) and i’m feeling rlly lonely. i always found girls rlly intimidating to talk to and/or not understanding of my humour so i’d tend to mask heavily around them (felt fake) and i haven’t found any like me and i wish i could just have girlfriends to call up and ft whenever i want. how do i find gfs that r into gamering and have the same typical incel fag humour i do ??????? i came to lolcow to maybe have some luck. also is there like a discord or something(newfag retardation)

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Enmeshed family Anonymous 08/09/22 (Tue) 10:16:07 AM No. 280759 [Reply]

A concept generally related to disfuncional families, toxic family bonds, lack of boundaries with parents, infantilization in adulthood, the mother wound, growing up too quickly, and much more.

In enmeshed families, members are emotionally fused together in an unhealthy way. More than one member is codependent of the other and individual goals are discouraged. A lot of shame and guilt happens when you try to become independent. You can read more here:
https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/enmeshment/
https://www.healthline.com/health/enmeshed-family#signs-of-enmeshment
https://tessrene.com/emotional-enmeshment/

As this is something I very much struggle with, I wanted to see if more anons here have gone through similar stuff, and how were you able to overcome it (or maybe just like me, you are in the process of recovering from). Please share your own experience with family enmeshment here.

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Anonymous 08/16/22 (Tue) 01:14:54 AM No. 282084

also this
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-emotional-intensity/201907/4-ways-release-anger-towards-your-parents#:~:text=The%20causes%20of%20lifelong%20anger,Physical%2C%20mental%2C%20or%20sexual%20abuse
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/anger-at-parents-in-adulthood/

Anonymous 08/16/22 (Tue) 05:35:12 AM No. 282113

might also be helpful

Anonymous 08/27/22 (Sat) 03:12:24 AM No. 283807

bell hooks mentioned going through a time in her life where she was severely depressed and suicidal and how the only way she got through it was through changing her environment: She surrounded her home with buddhas of all colors, Audre Lorde’s A Litany for Survival facing her as she wakes up, and filling the space she saw everyday with reinforcing objects and meaningful books. She asks herself each day, “What are you going to do today to resist domination?” I also really liked it when she said that in order to move from pain to power, it is crucial to engage in “an active rewriting of our lives.”

Anonymous 08/29/22 (Mon) 09:11:33 PM No. 284365

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Anonymous 05/02/24 (Thu) 12:01:23 AM No. 394987

Decenter your mom.

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Men shilled as attractive who you find ugly #2 Anonymous 11/29/21 (Mon) 12:46:25 AM No. 215207 [Reply]

Post men who are shilled as attractive but you think are ugly/overrated. Timmy was posted frequently last thread.

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Anonymous 04/28/24 (Sun) 09:17:00 AM No. 394234

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Anonymous 04/28/24 (Sun) 07:45:18 PM No. 394320

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Why he was ever cast in romcoms or shilled as a sex symbol confuses me

Anonymous 04/30/24 (Tue) 12:35:58 AM No. 394601

>>394320
Same nona I hate his fugly Neanderthal face

Anonymous 04/30/24 (Tue) 08:43:27 AM No. 394678

>>394320
I think he was attractive as Rust in True Detective in a rugged way (in the flashbacks) but I don’t see why he was casted as romcom lead for so long, he doesn’t have the face for it.

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Baby Talk 3 - Look Who's Talking Now Anonymous 01/24/23 (Tue) 12:59:48 AM No. 310088 [Reply]

Discuss family planning, birth, pregnancy, conception, fertility, and any other baby-related topic in this thread.
Refrain from posting if you dislike children or are childfree.
Old threads
>>>/g/212315
>>>/g/49996

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Anonymous 04/28/24 (Sun) 10:36:36 PM No. 394369

>>394293
do it if you want but do not do it because of pressure or fertility scares. There's nothing wrong with single parents if you socialize them correctly. My cousins baby was basically raised by our friend group and is an amazing kid

Anonymous 04/29/24 (Mon) 02:52:28 AM No. 394421

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There’s an “enbie” mom in my daughter’s Girl Scout troop, and I’m tempted to pull her out, but all her friends are in this troop, so I don’t want to be the bad guy

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Anonymous 04/29/24 (Mon) 02:53:33 AM No. 394423

>>394271
Thank you that makes me feel a little bit better. I’m sorry you had hyperemesis, I feel like I can’t really complain because it’s not that bad for me but man being pregnant is still annoying as hell!!

Anonymous 04/29/24 (Mon) 07:31:35 PM No. 394552

New thread >>394551

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eating disorder general 04/09/22 (Sat) 01:15:45 PM No. 255346 [Reply]

thread for harm reduction, support and venting

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Anonymous 03/15/24 (Fri) 02:43:42 AM No. 385148

Whenever I have to prepare food or eat I get the worst tension in my jaw and head area, it’s hard to describe but feels like my whole head is seizing up and being squeezed in a way that isn’t painful but feels like loads of pressure. I’m >2 years into a relapse and this is really hindering my recovery, receiving minimum professional help despite being over 10kg underweight. I don’t even care about losing weight anymore but I can’t seem to gain any because I’ve been fasting due to the extreme stress I go through at mealtimes. More than anything I want to relieve the tension so I can eat in relative peace, right now the only thing that helps is benzodiazepines. Anons do you have any advice?

Anonymous 03/15/24 (Fri) 11:37:24 AM No. 385205

>>385148
Does your jaw lock or is it just tension, is there ever pain?

Anonymous 03/15/24 (Fri) 04:27:59 PM No. 385244

>>385148
I don't have any medical advice but wtf just reading this makes me want to cry for you anon. You can't fast. You need to at least find some liquid calories that you can consume.

Anonymous 03/15/24 (Fri) 10:59:02 PM No. 385325

when does this shit end? i have been doing this crap for over 20 years. i've managed to get myself into healthy weight, i'm highest weight in my life at 18, but i wake up in the morning and cry when i see my body. i will never achieve my dream body from just losing weight alone, i lost this fight at birth, i've gone the spoop route but i will never get rid of my hips, breasts, etc latter always comes back first, i hate my feminine body, i wish i was shapeless and nothing.

Anonymous 04/28/24 (Sun) 06:44:39 PM No. 394309

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I gained 4 lbs and I'm so fucking suicidal. It is finals week and I need to hunker down and do my work but holy fuck I cannot stop thinking about it. And the weather is getting a lot warmer and I'm not going to be able to cover my body. God I hate myself so much.

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IRL husbando thread #2 Anonymous 09/21/22 (Wed) 05:08:35 PM No. 289276 [Reply]

previous thread >>>/g/193846

the anticipated second containment thread for the irl husbandofags is here! sperg freely about your trash men here and don't forget to have fun

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Anonymous 05/05/24 (Sun) 08:45:28 AM No. 395587

>>395223
what? he's bald? shame. well, at least he could do a good heavy tf2 cosplay. i was really hoping he had a buzz cut. being a maskfag always results in shit like this. i feel like a damn dream fan. i will pretend i didn't see that and continue to watch those tourniquet tutorials. even roman was better looking.

Anonymous 05/05/24 (Sun) 10:19:55 PM No. 395728

>>395587
i mean, what did you expect he's in the millitary. there is a pic of him blurred where he has a buzzcut but i think he shaves it frequently
i'm just glad there's no beard.

Anonymous 05/11/24 (Sat) 09:36:12 AM No. 396927

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before watching anatomy of a fall, i saw some edits of him and i was like "another white man of the month? he looks weird, young and old at the same time idk". after watching that movie, i understand the hype. he got this smart sexy professor vibe

Anonymous 05/14/24 (Tue) 12:38:22 AM No. 397704

>>396927
It’s the fact that he thought Sandra was guilty at first but still defended her as a lawyer. I bet he wanted her to bend him over from the balcony while milking his cock and pulling his hair. He’s ugly but I want to see him brutalised into submission

Anonymous 05/14/24 (Tue) 04:58:49 AM No. 397794

>>397704
i heard they were gonna have a sex scene but they ended up not doing it

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Latina / Hispanic girl problems Anonymous 12/23/23 (Sat) 04:38:55 PM No. 367662 [Reply]

A place for latina and hispanic women to chat, vent, offer advice, discuss latin american and hispanic culture. Spanish and portugese talk welcome.

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Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 08:07:31 PM No. 394118

I feel most comfortable around other Mexican Americans like me, but I do feel left out when the conversations are exclusively Spanish. I'm a 3rd generation MXAmerican and was never taught proper Spanish. I started talking to this guy who has similar life goals, values, and his career is in a similar field. The thing that's making me anxious is I found his TikTok and he has more posts in Spanish than English, meaning he's probably more comfortable speaking his native tongue, so he'd probably prefer to be with someone who also is a Spanish speaker. When it comes to children, I'd like my future children to know Spanish, so if all works out he'd be the one to teach them better.
It's just overall weird being in my 30s in the dating world and preferring Mexican men who are sober lmao. Is it maybe too limited of a preference? but this is something I'm becoming way more comfortable acknowledging.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 08:18:29 PM No. 394123

>>394118
>The thing that's making me anxious is I found his TikTok and he has more posts in Spanish than English, meaning he's probably more comfortable speaking his native tongue,
How is this a problem? Just practice Spanish with him. If you need to practice Spanish with anyone you can learn it with your family too. There's options out there. If this is of any help, you could also ask questions in this thread. I might be able to assist you as well

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 09:45:32 PM No. 394130

>>394123
That's true, one of the first questions he asked me if I knew Spanish and I said it's beginner level and he decided to continue further so it's not a big deal for him. I let my worries take over. I'm practicing at my job speaking to bilingual children and their parents so I think that's a good start.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 11:36:21 PM No. 394150

>>393977
Interesting post.

>>394118
Just learn Spanish? You have your foot in the door already if you know some, proper or not. Also, sober Mexican men aren't exactly rare, I've known more sober ones than addicts and I'm not even from a particularly great neighborhood either.

Anonymous 05/03/24 (Fri) 06:41:44 AM No. 395220

>>382739
Comparing UAE to Europe is a bit crazy here. Even in the US people are still super racist depending on where you live. Some white people do not care and others treat you really badly. I'm white but growing up in AZ and CO I've noticed this, some places the two mix together very well, and other it has a very segregated racist feel.

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Attachment Styles/Issues Anonymous 04/24/24 (Wed) 08:05:31 PM No. 393378 [Reply]

A thread to discuss your attachment style, attachment issues, venting, how it impacts your life, how you deal with it etc.

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Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 05:59:33 PM No. 393811

I'm anxious and I don't understand how people have secure attachment styles. I anxiously latch onto my partner and get told that I'm too clingy or needy, so I hardcore go in the other direction of "I am a strong independent woman and I don't care about anyone". It's miserable like this. It's always pain over partners that won't give me as much attention and I know it's not healthy either because I'm obsessive and codependent. But I don't know how to reel back without not caring at all. How are you supposed to care for someone without making it a massive priority and need?

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 05:21:15 AM No. 393976

My brain is wired wrong. I want hugs all the time, nuzzles all the time, non-stop. I am perpetually touch-starved and it's driving me up the walls.

I've tried to train myself to become used to not be so fucking clingy all the time but over 10+ years of trying it hasn't worked. I need the hugs. I'm constantly hugging and rubbing my face into my pillows while I'm alone at home. I wish I wasn't like this, it's not necessary to have or need this much physical affection but my brain doesn't care.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 07:51:19 AM No. 393988

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I think I might have anxious attachment. When I have a crush I get so obsessed and jealous and it is the only thing I can think of. I also have a habit of social media stalking to see if my crush liked any other womans pictures etc. I almost always find something and break my heart a little bit. When the person I'm talking to won't message me back fast enough I get really upset and cry about it like a little kid. Sometimes I also get angry and block as punishment which just hurts me even more or text something really passive aggressive which only pushes other people away. It is really hard to have the anger or fear get the best of me. I am just a very needy and insecure person and I don't know how to fix myself. I am already in therapy but my fear and the anger often win. Every time I care about someone or fall in love I think stuff like "they don't care as much as you do" or "you are too ugly/too stupid for them to even consider you as a girlfriend. They only go on a date with you because they are bored." "Your crush probably talks to ten other women that are way more beautiful and accomplished than you." This mindset is so ugly but I cannot help it. I long for love and someone who only ever looks at me. I have a really hard time communicating my feelings and needs. Like when someone doesn't reply to my message for a day I lash out and get angry and try to ignore the other person even harder to get back at them but what I actually want to say is "It hurts when you ignore me because you are important to me and I want to talk more with you." But I feel embarrassed about it and am not sure if I can be this vulnerable. I have a first date tomorrow and I'm already scared of rejection because I've already imagined us getting married and adopting 3 cats. How tf do I fix myself.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 09:42:22 AM No. 394001

Fearful avoidance is tough to deal with. It's easy for me to become so attached to someone and want their attention, but it's so difficult to ask for it. What makes it worse is being with someone who doesn't reciprocate my love that I want to receive back. I start becoming codependent on men who don't know how to do so. Having a clingy man is satisfying. I just need one who doesn't have a temper. I've only been in a relationship with 4 men in my life and I'm making sure I tell the next guy I date straight up I'm considered needy, because I have needs.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 12:43:19 PM No. 394027

I'm not sure what to do because the world has proven me that being avoidant is self preservation. People are too judgemental and they will misunderstand you. So don't ever get close, don't be yourself, keep it all in. No matter if they "want to know you" it's all a lie, don't trust mfs

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Personal Colors/Seasonal Palette thread Anonymous 09/16/23 (Sat) 11:58:14 PM No. 348964 [Reply]

What is a Seasonal Color Analysis?
>"Color analysis (American English; colour analysis in Commonwealth English), also known as personal color analysis (PCA), seasonal color analysis, or skin-tone matching, is a term often used within the cosmetics and fashion industry to describe a method of determining the colors of clothing, makeup, hair style that harmonizes with a person's skin complexion, eye color, and hair color for use in wardrobe planning and style consulting. It is generally agreed that the wrong colors will draw attention to such flaws as wrinkles or uneven skin tone while harmonious colors will enhance the natural beauty of the individual making them appear healthy, brighter, and possible more attractive or put-together."

Kinda similar to the Kibbe thread, this one is specifically dedicated to personal palettes and colors.

>Share good palettes
>Ask for advice on the best clothes or other products for your season
>Find out about your own season
>Vent about your color frustrations

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Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 05:26:57 PM No. 393804

>>393781
Personally I don't think the distinction down to the sub seasons matters much. But dark hair, blue eyes and (presumably) cool toned skin makes me think you're true or bright winter.
https://theconceptwardrobe.com/colour-analysis-comprehensive-guides/true-winter-a-comprehensive-guide
https://theconceptwardrobe.com/colour-analysis-comprehensive-guides/bright-winter-a-comprehensive-guide

Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 06:14:29 PM No. 393815

>>393781
You might be a spring

Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 09:43:27 PM No. 393885

>>393781
Probably not dark winter, they can pull off black hair.

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 12:31:01 AM No. 393935

Since so many color analysis hobbyists say that natural eye color and hair color don't matter, would it be too much of a long shot to say that the best color analysis is what nail color match your skin the most? I feel like I can often tell if a color looks bad on my nails, but not necessarily if the same color is held up to my face next to my hair…

Anonymous 04/27/24 (Sat) 10:28:03 AM No. 394012

>>393935
Hair colour matter, but only your natural one. Like a summer that dyes their hair black will still be a summer and not a winter, bc blondes cannot be winter bc blondes lack the contrast. Which is why celebrity blonde women with black dyed hair wear a lot of eye makeup, to up the contrast and get some harmony back .

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Bathroom Talk General #1 Anonymous 04/03/19 (Wed) 02:22:14 AM No. 112369 [Reply]

Didn't see a thread specifically for this kind of stuff so use this for discussion about things relating to bathroom stuff, advice, how to better your gut, how you personally maintain a healthy gut, general frustrations if you have an unhealthy gut (IBS, Crohns, etc) and/or how you manage it, asshole insecurities, etc.

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Anonymous 04/25/24 (Thu) 07:57:24 PM No. 393598

>>393576
I always see dumb shit about how "womens restrooms are sooo disgusting compared to mens'". It's become a meme at this point and I sincerely doubt the validity of that claim.

Anonymous 04/25/24 (Thu) 07:59:54 PM No. 393599

>>393598
The worst I see is maybe an unrolled pad

Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 08:08:34 AM No. 393712

>>393598
I remember in middle school, the principle had to give a PSA to all the students about bathroom etiquette because the boys thought it would be funny to piss on the walls and floor.

Anonymous 04/26/24 (Fri) 09:07:44 AM No. 393719

>>393598
People clamouring to declare women the ickiest grossest gender have an agenda (reminds me of the 'akshually women are domestic abusers just as much and maybe even worse than men!!' cope) and I don't believe it. Theoretically women are dealing with potentially gross situations more often than men (periods, changing diapers, etc), we have to use the bathroom more frequently, and don't have urinals that might be a bit easier to keep clean. But women are overall more considerate and try to avoid inconveniencing others- why would that change in a bathroom? Even when attempting suicide women worry about whoever is going to see and clean up their body.

I've only ever had to clean women's rooms so I can't really compare but the cleanliness of a bathroom in my experience is based almost entirely on location (private vs public place, nice area vs dodgy area, if it's within a business that has people cleaning throughout the day, etc).

Anonymous 05/13/24 (Mon) 01:08:15 PM No. 397494

Lol short film
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